It was the end of a decade, but the start of an age-Taylor Swift
Well here it is...30. Today is the start of a new decade for me. My twenties were weird. They were happy, sad, confusing, lonely, amazing, adventurous, and full of love. My grief was insurmountable, but so was my healing.
I made good and bad choices. I met a lot of people...some who broke me, others I broke. I walked away from those who tried to take everything from me. I also encountered amazingly kind hearted people along the way, who have filled my heart with joy, and I will cherish them forever. I learned who my real friends are and their love is irreplaceable.
I took huge leaps of faith, I succeeded, and I failed. I left my home state of Colorado for adventure in Texas, only to leave Texas to live happily ever after in Florida. I made dreams come true and I accomplished a number of goals. The setbacks were numerous, but not debilitating.
I lost myself. I gave me to the wrong people...friends, guys, coworkers, etc. I searched for the real me for a very long time. Sometimes I thought I found me, but then I’d lose me all over again. I met people who helped search for me and as my twenties slipped away, at the very last second, I found myself.
Ultimately, I built a life I love. I’m a friend, neighbor, colleague, adventurer, sister, wife, and mama. Most importantly, I’m me...and no one will ever take or change that again.
So in my first few hours of being 30, I want to share 30 things I learned by 30. Most of these lessons I learned when I was 29...because 2020 was a weird year that led to a lot of personal growth. So here they are, 30 things I’ve learned, in no particular order, with absolutely no explanation.
30 Things I Learned By 30
1. You are doing just fine
2. It’s totally ok to outgrow friendships
3. The importance of drinking water
4. Know what makes you happy
5. Stop hating your body
6. The importance of politics
7. The value of honesty
8. Toxic friends are not friends at all
9. Don’t spend time punishing yourself
10. Taking vitamins makes you feel better
11. Don’t sacrifice yourself for anyone or anything
12. If you don’t like your job, leave
13. Therapy isn’t a bad thing
14. Walk your own path-it’s your life
15. When you do something, do it for the right reason
16. Cherish the people you love
17. Be grateful
18. Make sure people you value know you appreciate them
19. Do not seek revenge...your enemies will expect attacks but never compassion
20. Saying no is 100% ok
21. If you don’t like where you are, move
22. Know Your personality type and use it to your advantage
23. Move past childhood scars
24. Don’t waste your time wishing for someone else’s life. Enjoy yours.
25. It’s okay to put yourself first
26. You don’t have to forgive people, even if they’re sorry
27. People can’t read your thoughts
28. What others think of you is none of your business
29. Failure is ok and totally normal
30. Buy the expensive thing you’ve wanted and enjoy it
Now it’s time to say adios to my twenties. Goodbye and so long to the negativity and everything and everyone who doesn’t deserve to get carried over into my thirties.
Cheers to my twenties. RIP.
